Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Being Thankful 2014

I have to admit, this year I have had a hard time finding my groove in being thankful.  Most of that is my own selfishness.  I know I have more than I could ever count to be thankful for...but this has been a hard year.  I have lost a great deal...my life as I knew it, my children's lives as they knew it and love I thought was for a life time. I have had to come to terms with the ugly realities of betrayals and the shock of realizing you don't always know the people you are most vulnerable with.  I have had to begin wrapping my mind around a reality that the last 30 years of my life were not what they seemed and only a mirage.  So, I find myself stunned often by those realities and they make me overlook what I should be thankful for.

Each year on the blog I try to post about what I am thankful for, and this year it is taking more thought, more consideration than usual.  I haven't spent the month of November documenting the special blessings in my life as in the past; but there have been blessings.  I have 3 jobs (yes, 3 part time jobs!) that I like which have come just when they needed to, I have a warm, safe house, a car that is reliable and most importantly I have 3 amazing children to share my journey with.  I know if it had not been for their presence in my life I would not still be standing.  They each have unique strengths and talents and bring different joys into my life.  I am waiting expectantly to see just what God does in their lives in the coming seasons, because I know in my heart He has big plans for them.  He would not take them through what they have faced if He didn't have BIG plans for them.  I can't wait to stand on the side lines and cheer them through their lives.

I also have many dear, special friends to be thankful for, some old and some new.  I wish I could tell you what each one has brought into my world this year but it would take days to write each blessing down.  I am just thankful for their love, support and help.

I am also thankful for my parents and their support this year.  It was a painful year of loss for them as well but they did all they could to help me and the children.  I am blessed.

It is a different year...this 2014.  Holidays won't be the same and our family is learning to be a family...just a smaller one...but we are blessed.  Thank you, Lord.

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Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Birthday Week!

Birthday week….yes, I said week.  I probably should have said month because my baby girl has always had a way of spreading it out for the whole month.  This week my first born baby turned 23.  That is a real, grown up number…23.

I can’t begin to find the right words to express what she means to me and has since the very first day I found out she was on her way.  That day changed me and changed my life.  Then on the day she was born something amazing happened to my whole world.  It just seemed more beautiful and love more plentiful.  She made me want to be a better person and I wanted her to have a life filled with joy and love.  I knew that day that I would do anything to make that happen.

This last year she has had to take care of me though, more than I have taken care of her.  She has had to lead me through some dark days, even when she was dying inside.  She has fought for me like no one else ever has.  Little did I know 23 years ago how much I would need her one day.  I am so grateful for the blessing that God created and shared with me  in this beautiful, smart, talented and strong young woman.  

Happy Birthday Week, my sweet girl!

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P.S. Please pop back a post and throw your suggestions in for my new blog name and enter my give-away!

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Naming Contest!

So, I have decided I do want to pursue a new blog with a different feel, which I hope to show growth and transparency in my life and heart and also share the things that I still love even after the hard year I have faced.   I don't want Southern Somedays to go totally away because it recorded my life for years, the life I had always dreamed of and loved....until the very end. But I also lost a lot of myself in the pain of the past year so I am hoping to refocus and share that transformation.  It won't always be pretty and filled with bubble gum and roses and I am sure there are those out there that would rather not read some of the words that may tumble out but it is my story, my life.

There was a while where it was easy to overlook what I  really love, what I really enjoy and what I just think is just fun and now is the time to do some rediscovery. But without a name, I am feeling stuck...so help me out!  If I pick your suggested name and/or tagline (you must leave in a comment!) I will send you Talbot's new, amazing fragrance roller ball.  I am in love with this perfume and think it is perfect!   You will receive Talbot's new signature fragrance in a travel-ready .25oz fragrance rollerball. Timeless, feminine and modern, this new scent exudes an easy elegance with a fresh, floral and fruity bouquet. 

Can you tell I really love it???  So fire up those creative juices and help me find a new blog name so I can get that new blog up and designed!

P.S. Comments and suggestions left on the previous post will be considered as entries as well!  Thanks!!!

Monday, October 13, 2014

Something Wonky This Way Comes...and a Give-Away

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Something has gone terribly wonky with my blog.  My photos seem to have gone the way of the wind and I am trying to figure out how/why.  Anyone with any GREAT ideas or has had this happen to their Blogger blog please let me know what is going on!!!

In other wonky life things, there really isn't much to report which I consider to be a delightful thing as I have had a couple of year of wonky and don't consider wonky a good thing.

I am working 2 jobs that I like and trying to balance being a single Mom, house cleaning (sort of), cooking (doing much better here!), laundry (sucks) and trying to develop a grown up girl life of my own.  I have been spending a lot of time studying budgets and financial things as I feel I really let myself be really stupid in that area for way too many years...but I am working on it...even if it makes me sleepy reading most of it!    I have moments when I want to cry but those are fewer and fewer between and usually just when I am really, really tired.  I am meeting new people and spending time with them and that has helped a lot as it is always good to find others to laugh with and experience new things with.

I am even considering stopping Southern Somedays and starting a new blog to reflect my new life but can't come up with a good title.  If you have any ideas please leave them in the comment section because I think a new blog, just like new bedding, or a new purse can sometimes just give you the creative burst you need!  If I pick your name I will send you a prize (not sure what but it will be something wonderful I can promise!!!

I have missed you blog friends!

Edited to add....I fixed it all by myself and my photos are back!  Whoot!

Thursday, July 31, 2014

Bangs Versus Botox

We probably all know someone who has given in and done the Botox dance…hey, maybe “we” are the one???  Maybe we snuck into our dermatologist office to get a little lift and fill, or maybe we laughed nervously as we passed wine and cheese at a friend’s Botox party as we awaited our turn at the end of the needle…tiny as it may be.  Either way I bet you have thought about it, even if you would never do it.  Who doesn’t think those little lines would be nice if they just went away? Actually a good friend of mine recently had it done and she said she did OK until they got to the little lines on the outside of her eyes and then she got a little woozy and there was a little bruising.  She was pretty pleased with the results though.

All that is well and good for the brave heart amongst you…but I am a wimp.  Literally, the idea of you sticking a needle in my face…albeit a little needle, FOR FUN, just doesn’t quite make me able to sit still.  Now, there are certain cosmetic procedures that I feel I could endure but for some reason the tiny needle in my face is not one of them!  So, as I sat at my dressing table the other day, I pondered how to handle this dilemma of the particularly annoying lines forming on my forehead (of course, I was reminded of that hysterical scene in Christmas with the Cranks where Tim Allen’s character had a little tooooo much of the Botox love going on.)  And I was struck with an idea straight from God himself of how I could avoid the little needle and hide the lines without duct tape being involved…BANGS!  Why had I not thought of this before????  So, like any good Southern girl I called my Aunt (who happens to be my age…don’t ask as it will forever be a bizarre little tale of how my Mother and Grandmother were pregnant at the same time…back in the dark ages) for her opinion on bangs.
Boy howdy, was she all for it.  In her words, “I tried to let mine grow out the last time I got a haircut. I made it about 3 weeks or a month and then gave up. I trimmed them one morning before work and BAM…it made my whole head look practically marvelous immediately!  It was a miracle. I’m a bangs fan for myself…I mean it…even the BACK looked better that day.”  So, there I sat totally convinced I had completely solved my latest obsessive struggle with aging and then she added, “Fat solves winkles to some extent as well. I’ve somehow mastered wrinkles WITH fat.  Oh well.  Whatever. 

Hey what can I say, my pool of advisers can have a unique perspective from time to time but you gotta love them and I promptly made an appointment with my sweet, precious hairdresser (who also doubles as a therapist of the best kind, not to mention does the BEST blowouts on the face of the earth!)  Needless to say she was a bit wary when I rushed in and said “cut ‘em off” with what appeared to be a spur of the moment idea (it was!) especially since she was more than familiar with my mental state over the last few months.  But, she did it and I lived with it…and not seeing where the little places where the needles would need to go anymore was comforting.  Then low and behold I decided I needed a whole new do and I think, I really do, that I have saved myself from the little needles just a bit longer.   

Bangs win over Botox….hands down!

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Sunday, July 20, 2014

Two steps forward, Three steps back...

I have been doing really well lately, or at least I thought I had been..  I haven’t cried in a while.  But today, when I was getting my youngest ready for camp I opened a drawer and saw all sorts of memories.  They were clothes he had out grown, clothes from happier times when we had a whole family.  The tears started and I couldn’t stop them.  I just wanted to lay down in those clothes and cry myself to sleep.  I am crying again now as I think about it.  I miss my family and what family meant so very much.  We are now full of fractures filled with anger, hate and mistrust.  One thing I wanted my entire life is for my children to have close loving relationships with each other and I am seeing that dissolve before my very eyes. I hate this. I miss having back up when a child rearing issue comes up.. I miss knowing that there is someone who can step in when I can't handle it.  I am so tired of doing this alone.  I miss having someone to share the day with…I am lonely.  

I am tired of being strong when I really feel like “where are you God?” Why did this happen to us?

When will it ever, ever, ever get easier?

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Monday, July 07, 2014

Banana Bread, Frugalista Style

I am committed to becoming a better steward of what I have been given and one big area that I think I can save is in the kitchen/pantry.  Years ago I was a good couponer and did most of our cooking/baking at home but over the last few years that just went away.  The last couple of years, in particular, saw me almost completely stop cooking/baking.  I used to really enjoy it, though, and I think if I could get back in the swing of things I would enjoy it again and it would be better financially and health wise.  Not to mention, with 2 boys and their friends, it is important to always have some snacky stuff on hand.

So today I decided rather than throwing out the 3 bananas that had seen better days I would make banana bread!  I found this recipe which called for just a few ingredients (all of which I had on hand!)

Banana Bread

  • 3 or 4 ripe bananas, smashed
  • 1/3 cup melted butter
  • 1 cup sugar
  • 1 egg, beaten
  • 1 teaspoon vanilla
  • 1-1/2 self rising flour
Preheat oven to 350 degrees. With a fork mix the butter into the mashed bananas in a large mixing bowl.  Mix in the sugar, egg and vanilla. Add the flour last and mix well. Spray a 4x8 inch loaf pan with no stick spray. Pour mixture into prepared loaf pan. Bake for 1 hour.  Cool on rack before removing from pan Iif you can wait that long!) Slice and enjoy!

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